Consider for a moment the people you spend the most time with. Are they elevating you, holding you down, or is it completely neutral? Now consider these words from Jim Rohn: You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Are you averaging up or are you averaging down?
The five people I spend the most time with:
My wife. Of course, I average up here. There are many reasons, but one is that she puts within me the desire to become a better man and husband.
My son. Indeed for many of the same reasons as my wife, but there is also another element. In him, I see the youthful exuberance I can’t remember having when I was younger. With him there is no thought of the past or anxiety concerning the future. He is living in the present. I spend a lot of time trying to stay in the present. For me, it is not that easy.
My Father-in-Law. From the “Old Marine” I have learned so much. It is always a pleasure to spend time with him.
My Mother-in-Law. She’s a trooper. The epitome of Semper Fidelis. Is there not anything she would do for her family? Another one that averages me up.
The fifth is actually a collection. It is my current work team. I average up with them as well. They are all seasoned veterans of the job, and their expertise goes way beyond my own in the position. I am the low man on the totem pole, and you know what? I am absolutely fine with that. Here I am the student and trying to add as much value to the team as I can. They are leveling me up professionally.
There are many others that I wish I could spend more time with as I know there is tremendous value being in their presence. Who do you spend your time with?
From good people you’ll learn good, but if you mingle with the bad you’ll destroy such soul as you had. –Musonius Rufus