Proverbs 19:11 Slow to Anger

There is a type of discretion in which a person can speak without causing the listener offense. This is not weakness. It is not beating around the bush. It is honest and directed in such a way that the listener can walk away with his feelings intact.

If a speaker is unable to do this, they will often cover their inability with the phrase, “I meant no offense.” It is not the best approach, but in this day and age, it is usually accepted.

And then there is a total lack of discretion. The speaker burns everything in his path without remorse or regard for the listener. This approach requires little thoughtfulness and even less tact.

Thinking before you speak and choosing your words carefully will eliminate many quarrels. You will be less likely to get angry and less likely to anger your audience.

The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger, and his glory is to overlook a transgression.

Proverbs 19:11

And if you are the listener, consider the latter half of this proverb. It is your glory to not be offended. These days, this is not something we see often. It seems that many of us are offended by the slightest provocation. But as Epictetus once said, “Any person capable of angering you becomes your master. They can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed by them.” The offense is only offensive if you allow it to be so.

Let us, therefore, put our egos aside. If we truly want the glory, we should take the high road and not let ourselves be offended.

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10 Reasons to Slow Your Anger

Good sense makes a man slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense. –Proverbs 19:11

It is not the easiest pill to swallow, but being slow to anger is the best medicine. Here’s 10 reasons why it is best to let it go:

  1. Winston Churchill said, “A man is about as big as the things that make him angry.” Let that quote sink in if the little things make you angry.
  2. Not getting angry is a true test of self-mastery. Do you have enough restraint over your mind to not give into your emotions?
  3. To not retaliate may be perceived as weakness, but this is the easy way. Isn’t it better to have the strength of a calm mind? As Marcus Aurelius put it, “The nearer a man comes to a calm mind, the closer he is to strength.”
  4. What is the offense? Does the offender deem this as offensive or are they acting in a way they perceive to be right?
  5. A city breached and left defenseless are those who cannot control their temper. –Proverbs 25:28. What’s the translation here? Without the proper defenses in place, you are vulnerable. An angry man does not make good decisions, and poor decisions are a liability.
  6. The high road, your glory, is to overlook it. When the offender realizes his errors, the onus is on him to make it right.
  7. The low road, which is shameful, is to point out the offence. Do this, and chances are the offender will care less about rectifying the mistake.
  8. Is this something you will be angry about tomorrow? Only if you stoke the fire.
  9. When anger rises, think of the consequences. –Confucius
  10. Take a deep breath. Count to ten or a hundred. Do what is right and you can’t go wrong.