Unintentional Consequences of Delaying Your Dreams

One Take from the Week #9: Unintentional Consequences of Delaying Your Dreams

Ever since childhood, Carl was a dreamer. When he was a child, he watched a movie that left a lasting impression on him. The world was much bigger than he realized. Beyond his little neighborhood was a vast unknown waiting to be explored. That day, Carl made up his mind. He was going to be an adventurer and travel to the far reaches of the world.

That was Carl’s dream, but he did something different. He did what he was expected to do. He didn’t have the money to follow his dreams, so he got a job. He met someone with a similar dream, and they got married. To save up enough money to go on their adventures, his wife got a job.

They had a plan. It was a good plan. In fact, it was the logical plan that responsible people are encouraged to make. But in the movie Up, we realize that plans are only plans and have no guarantees. Carl and Ellie continued to dream and to work as they got older. Ellie ended up dying and they never got to go on their adventure together.

Carl’s story reminds me of Jack. Jack owned a construction and built houses all over town. Like Carl, he also dreamed of travelling the world with his wife. One day he was going to slow down and retire. What he didn’t count on was becoming a widower. His loss was devastating, and his quality of life took a dramatic turn for the worse. Eventually, his daughter forced him to move in with her and her family. This didn’t go over well and what ensued was War with Grandpa.

Carl (Up) and Jack (War with Grandpa).

A person who thinks all the time has nothing to think about except thoughts, so he loses touch with reality and lives in a world of illusions.

Alan Watts

The lesson could be that wives should never die before their husbands, but it is not. Instead, the lesson is about the unintentional consequences of delaying your dreams. No one is guaranteed tomorrow, let alone another twenty years and a comfortable retirement. If your dreams are nothing more than a fantasy, that is fine. Have your fantasy. But if this dream is important enough, you must start setting it into motion today. Make the plans, lay the groundwork, and attack it with all your being. Don’t let these dreams only be wasted thoughts. Bring them from the world of illusions into reality.

Feature photo by Peter Fogden on Unsplash


The next entry in my series, The Art of Not Getting Things Done, I discuss getting squirreled…

Okay, that’s a joke, but it is recurring theme that worth taking a look at. It seems the more I read about productivity, the less I seem to accomplish. It is not that I am accomplishing less than before, but now I am more aware of how often I am dropping the ball.

Yesterday morning, I was off to do something of great importance. But then I remembered that I really wanted to subscribe to the Medium app. I downloaded this app a few weeks ago and found the articles were just fantastic. These are quick, beneficial reads that I can knock out anytime. But after a while, the “what you want to read is reserved for member’s only” pop-up started blocking the articles. Okay, I got the message, it is time to pay the man for the good stuff.

I can’t remember the last time I paid for an app. Apparently, PayPal and Apple couldn’t remember the last time either. The quick “push to subscribe” button led me down a 45 minute rabbit hole of renewing passwords, updating personal information, and choosing security questions in case the passwords and pins are deemed insufficient. By the way, Apple, when I couldn’t answer my old security questions, you gave me the option to change my questions. That seems like a little hole in the security, but thank you for allowing me to proceed with my purchase.

The process took much longer than I planned. The thing of great importance that I was off to do, well, I can no longer remember what it was. Maybe, it fell into the “things of great importance” storage container in my brain. Who knows, one day it might be retrieved from the archives. If it does, I hope it does not lose its importance.

Disney Pixar

Remember Dug from the Disney movie, Up? While relaying some very valuable information, Dug would get distracted by a squirrel. We used to  joke about this at work. One could be in mid sentence and get squirreled. Some get squirreled often. Yesterday morning, I got squirreled hard. Forty-five minutes flew from me before I even knew what happened. What should I have done? I should have made a note of it and returned to it when I had nothing pressing. Subscribing to an app wasn’t pressing at the time. But by allowing it to take precedence, I lost something that was potentially of greater value.

Not just squirreled hard, but squirreled often.

After my morning incident, I became aware of just how often I get squirreled. These squirrels pop up all the time. I will read a book or article that mentions another book >>> Well as a mass consumer of the written word, I never heard of this other book >>>  Let me go to Goodreads and see what it says >>> Is this author on my BookHub list, so I can get notifications if his/her books go on sale in the Kindle store? >>> Let me check my email to see what’s on sale today? >>> Oh look, more email. Before I know it, time has slipped away. I went from some very interesting reading to a meandering walk that took me away from my goal of finishing the chapter. Squirreled. And that is just reading a book. Thank God, I took the notification badges off for Twitter, Instagram, FaceBook, and all the other squirrels that lurk on my phone.

I read an article on Ryan Holiday’s Notecard system. It is a system that I want to in some way adopt. To get in the habit of using cards on a regular basis, I started keeping a 3×5 index card with me wherever I go. On the card is the 5-6 most important tasks I need to get done for the day. Hopefully, just this act alone will reap some very fruitful benefits. Usually, the back side of the card is empty. Today, I am going to call the B-side of this card my Squirrel Bucket. My hope is that all the distractions go on it. If it is worth addressing, then maybe after the front side of the card is complete, I can go back and take a look. Worth a try, right?

I can’t multi-task. If I want to get things done, I have to focus on one item at a time. It takes massive effort to temper the mind from all the distractions. Can you get things done? What do you to stay distraction-free and boost your productivity? I would love to hear about it and maybe try to incorporate it into my own life.

Time is what we want most, but what we use worst. –William Penn